Resilience: The Hidden Issue for Millennial Kids

I've been thinking alot about kids born between 1982 and 2000--the so-called Millennial Generation.  I know it's fashionable to look at trends and make general statements these days about generations, some of which I think can be overblown.  For example, I often feel that the statistics and general characterisitcs sited for Millennial Kids are based on white suburban kids and that we know very little about Black or Latino or urban kids.  That said, it can be eye-opening to learn about some of the trends we see in this age grop--kids who have grown up always knowing technology and the Internet and whose lives have been shaped by technology, the threat of terrorism, global economics and hovering parents.

One thing I think about with regard to these kids--many of whom make up my psychotherapy practice, is that they are hard working, creative, have incredible self-esteem, think they and their generation are special and feel like great things are expected of them.  They have also grown up with parents who have done everything for them.  Which is what brings me to the issue of resilience.  I wonder just how resilient these kids are.  Being smart and having high self-esteem don't seem to be the ingredients for bouncing back, persevering and making do on ones own--the hallmarks of resilience.  I know there is a lot to say about this, but I am just beginning to put my thoughts together and will add to them in the next few days.  Any thoughts you, my trusty reader, may have, please share!  --Bob Ditter

Posted on 3/28/2007 by Bob Ditter


Comments

Comment by Mike on 5/5/2007 8:21:23 PM

I think that many of our children have "false resilience". What I mean is that many kids are sheletered so much that they have a false sense of security. When they have to act on their own they have skills that they are copying from what they have seen. (not real coping skills) I also think theat we have protected them so much that they often feel lost and afraid to handle real world situations. Thanks Bob for all that you do for the kids!

Comment by Barry Martin on 5/18/2007 7:28:58 AM

This is exactly why youth programs that transfer leadership from the adult to the young people are so critical. Are we letting the kids make tough decisions and then allowing them to live with the results of those decisions (real safety concerns excepted of course). I have found that kids who have the opportunity to rise and fall on their decisions are much more resilient and have better problem solving skills.

Comment by Katrina Jensen on 5/30/2007 8:41:14 PM

After hearing you speak along with Jodi Rudick and Jefferey Leiken at the ACA Midstates Conference, the one idea that stuck out at me most from what you all said was this idea of resiliency. I made "bouncing back" the topic of my valedictorian speech given at my high school graudation ceremony last week. I think this an extremely important message for young people and I want to let you know that I am trying to spread the idea! -Katrina Jensen Cedar Rapids, IA

Comment by Meg Omel on 9/5/2007 8:18:36 PM

I heard you talk about this last fall in Salem, Oregon and it really struck a chord with me. We talked about the importance of this at our summer staff training. I just recently started graduated school (MSW) and read about the Resilience Theory in my Micro class. I remembered your talk and discussed it in my E-Journal. Thanks Bob!

Comment by Corinne on 9/20/2007 7:39:05 PM

I would be eager to hear your further thoughts on this, and can recommend Alexa Robbin's book Overachievers. She devotes an extensive amount of time to the topic of resiliency and comes to many of the same conclusions you seem to be moving towards. I see some of the same patterns in my high school students and campers as well, but hesitate to make overarching conclusions given my limited perspective.

Comment by Ditterfan22 on 5/29/2009 9:03:01 PM

In the words of Bob Dylan, "The Times They are a Changin." Bob truely adds to this great classic song. I believe that children will be a changing thing for everyone. Our generation has been generated by technology and a sense of a false euphoria. Thier resiliance may not be strong in times of trials. Hopefully this generation will succeed in which others have failed...

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